Building Up Our Kids: Quick Reference
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Building Up Our Kids: Quick Reference

It’s easy to knock something or someone down. It takes time, energy, effort, and thoughtfulness to build something or someone up. I heard this analogy the other day and it struck me. The context was simply referring to negative people, but I immediately connected it to parenting. As parents, we spend SO much time and energy building our children up, BUT it can all come crashing down when you’re sleep-deprived, fed-up, and used up all your patience before noon. I fell victim to that this week.

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7 Tricks to Tame Tantrums
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7 Tricks to Tame Tantrums

Tantrums are probably the number one challenge to most toddler parents. They are most definitely the number one reason why parents contact me. So I wanted to make a “quick reference” guide for tantrums. One you can pull-out on those days when you may not have the mental clarity to think through it yourself or you’re just too tired to troubleshoot through the fifth tantrum that day (Solidarity, mamas!).

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Tantrums & Stay-Listening
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Tantrums & Stay-Listening

Tantrums are very rarely about the fixation or perseveration of the screaming. They are generally about either control or connection. If a child feels powerless, they will try to find power any way they can (what they eat, what they where, when the do something, how they do something). If a child feel disconnected, they will insist on establishing the connection by any means necessary - positive or negative.

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Rainy Day Play Dough
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Rainy Day Play Dough

Rainy days have this mama searching for anything and everything to take-up time and entertain both myself and the toddler. When I think of these activities, I look for multi-step projects to A. take up the most time and B. provide feelings of accomplishment and creation, while still allowing the activity to be open-ended. These two goals are the reason why we frequently make our own play dough instead of buying it. 

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Sorting the Rainbow
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Sorting the Rainbow

So what is a pregnant mama with a toddler to do to beat the heat? I’ve decided to compile a list of activities to do with my son that will keep us entertained, inside, and cool during these HOT, HOT months. I will publish a weekly activity that worked in our house and include how to modify it for age/skill. Additionally I’ll cover all the great learning opportunities that the activity presents while you and your child are engaged.

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Words of Power & Empathy: Part 1
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Words of Power & Empathy: Part 1

Empowering our children requires parents to consciously find ways to give them a healthy level of control while still providing security through setting boundaries. Empathy calls for a thorough understanding and interpretation of our child’s development, temperament, and compassion for their struggles. Ultimately, this is what led to Play With Purpose’s inception - a calling to educate parents to empower their children.

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Words of Power & Empathy: Part 2
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Words of Power & Empathy: Part 2

Now that we understand our child’s development and how to set developmentally appropriate expectations, we need to “speak their language” and communicate in a clear, concise, yet an empathetic way. In order to do this, we need to be aware of common abstract terms and phrases we use with our children.

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The Power of a Picture Schedule
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The Power of a Picture Schedule

Picture schedules are often used with children on the Autism Spectrum as a way to communicate routines and expectations within the classroom. The picture cards on a picture schedule can be used in many different ways, such as: a child communicating preferences, an adult communicating expectations (“First we wash hands, then we eat snack.”), and also as a roadmap for daily activities.

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Learning Centers at Home
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Learning Centers at Home

Center set-ups keep materials organized, children focused, and learning objectives obvious and clear. While children are in these centers, they are encouraged to learn important academic and social skills through their natural inclination to play.

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Cozy Corners for Comfort: Helping Your Child Stay Grounded in an Over-Stimulating World
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Cozy Corners for Comfort: Helping Your Child Stay Grounded in an Over-Stimulating World

Setting up a “kid-friendly” environment can be deceptively difficult. In our culture, more is better and being busy makes us happier and smarter. These behavior patterns seep from our adult lives into our children’s routines, even though study after study demonstrates that overstimulation can, in fact, be detrimental to our children’s development.

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Children’s Literature: A Discipline Tool?
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Children’s Literature: A Discipline Tool?

Children’s books are gifts to children and parents alike. They capture children’s attention and activate their imagination. Authors, illustrators, and publishers who specialize in children’s literature do all our leg work to communicate morals, lessons, and stories to children in ways that they understand and enjoy. Because of their thoughtful design, children’s books offer an approachable and understandable medium to explain abstract concepts such as emotions, friendship, love, fairness, kindness, etc.

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Think Time: A Follow-Up Strategy
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Think Time: A Follow-Up Strategy

After my own self-reflection, I decided I wanted to pass this along to other parents who may try to use behavior reflections during their every day interactions at home. The strategy I will share and discuss is: “Think-Time”, commonly known in the education world as “Wait-Time”.

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Behavior Reflections: The Next Step
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Behavior Reflections: The Next Step

Drawing boundaries and teaching our children how to operate within them, is a responsibility we all share as parents. We can successfully navigate these “learning opportunities” without shaming (“Why would you do that?!”), threatening (“If you do that one more time, I’ll….) or other punitive punishment strategies. This requires some thoughtfulness, on our side, first. 

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